Dan Savage's posts

Something is bothering me and I don’t know where else to turn. I’m a bisexual man. I’ve been married to a great guy…

I’m a lesbian and my girlfriend is bi. I’ve read your column and listened to your podcast for a long time, Dan, and…

My boyfriend and I were friends for a couple of years (we’re both 30-year-old gay men), then I stopped traveling…

I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a…

Why are threesomes much more accepted in the popular imagination than foursomes? I was just googling “finding…

I’m a nearly-80 straight male, with undiminished libido. I have no problem with it, just a persistent curiosity.…

I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for the past year. The only problem is that he works with a girl he…

Borrowing Gen Z’s love for labelling everything, I’m a 46-year-old homoromantic asexual Canadian faggot. For me that…

My husband recently passed away. He was a wonderful person and we had twelve great years together. He was also very,…

I was dumped in August by a guy I was seeing for ten months. He told me that he wants to work on himself and “needs…

I’m a thirty-something gay man married to a thirty-something gay man. For almost two years, we’ve been seeing…

Married guy here. I’m 33, the wife is 31. Our fifth anniversary is next month but we’ve been together for almost…

I’m a straight man who’s been dating a woman for not quite four months. In the beginning things were light. But…

I’m a 29-year-old straight woman in Pennsylvania. My question has to do with choking and consent. I’ve had two…

I’ve been married for thirty years to the same man. I have dealt with his tantrums, his screaming, and his fits.…

I’m a cis male in my late twenties. I’ve recently become consumed by a specific fantasy I fear is unattainable, a…

I’m a 35-year-old woman. I recently discovered I’m a size queen. (Is it OK for me to use this term?) This has been…

I’m a 38-year-old bi woman who has been sleeping with a married male coworker for the last eight months. We’re a…

I’m a gay guy who’s involved with a guy I met a few months before COVID-19 took off. He’s a great guy, smart, funny,…

I’m a twenty-something more-or-less lesbian in an East Coast city. I’m primarily into women, and I’m only interested…